Conclusions

Some common themes emerge when you examine mixed generation households that work. They are the importance of respect, independence, patience, and clear boundaries. One of the biggest benefits is the closeness that develops when grandparents and grandchildren live together and really get to know each other. Also, many adult children say they appreciate the opportunity to see their parents in a different light.

By the next census, experts predict not only the increase of three generation households, but the rise of households in which four generations live quite comfortably.

Expert: George Vaillant, M.D.

George E. Vaillant, M.D., is a widely respected researcher, a psychiatrist at Brigham and Women's Hospital, and a professor at the Harvard Medical School. He is also the author of several books, including Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life, Adaptation to Life, Wisdom of the Ego, and the classic The Natural History of Alcoholism.

Dr. Vaillant cites a series of controllable factors that lead to successful aging. They are:

• Refrain from smoking and the abuse of alcohol and drugs.
• Exercise regularly and keep physically active.
• Keep your weight under control.
• Continue to pursue education and cultivate new interests.
• Maintain a successful marriage or relationship before the age of 50.
• Help others and contribute to society. Participate!
• Understand that stress is a condition of life, and develop mechanisms to handle stress.
• Have fun and always keep your sense of humor.